Judge at first glance.

It doesn't take a second for me to judge when it comes to men. I recently was to take an auto ride but was very hesitant to get into one judging the way the auto anna appeared to be. To add up to my uncertainty that particular auto also had these weird red lights inside making it look creepy in the dark night. However that day it was the only auto available and I was to get into my hostel before the curfew time. With doubts clogged in my head and fear gripping my heart I got into it. Turned out he was a sweet guy,I don't know may be the fear was so evident on my face that he made sure I was comfortable by talking out random things casually. And that really made me feel at ease.

Was the auto anna the problem here for having no clue and becoming the victim of my fear? No. Was I the problem to have doubted him ? Certainly no. What truly is the problem is that how society has taught us certain things the hard way. I did feel sad later recalling how I ended up suspecting an innocent man but I wouldn't say I was wrong to think that way or that I shouldn't have thought that way. 

What I blame is the way the society has made me to think that way in the first place. Yes, genralising is bad but who am I supposed to trust when men in general are threat. I wouldn't say all men rape but most men do, most men laugh for jokes that objectify women, most men wander their lustful glance across the room right when a women enter, most men think it's ok to degrade a women, most men think they have a say in how a woman lives her life . And that "most men" can be anyone that I come across in the street.

That "most" is what I fear. Don't say "not all men" to a victim.Yes , "not all men" but still "most" men and what great does it change?Nothing, except the victim being blamed."Most" is still a part of "All". And unfortunately I don't possess super power to filter good men out of it.If it's not all men then she wouldn't suffer so. Why would the society still feel good in acknowledging all the other ones except the victim who needs to be.why is it kneen in protecting the dignity of a man when it should be the other way around?

Until most men continue to be a threat I think it's absolutely fine to  judge men and disagree to "not all men" for that doesn't bring any damage to anyone except for the fragile ego of some. But I wish it's not so. I wish one day I wouldn't judge a man at first glance. I wish one day I wouldn't travel with uncertainty. I wish one day men aren't being a threat.I wish all these wouldn't just stay as my "wish" but I get to live it.

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